BY Shellee Enfinger
I talk to women all the time that say, “I am afraid of guns” or “I want to learn but I am scared of even touching a gun”. What I want to say to them is, “I am way more afraid of a bad guy or a bad situation than a firearm that is totally in my control.”
For those ladies out there that feel like that, the gun is only a tool! The tool is not the enemy or the threat. It is simply a piece of metal. If it is sitting in my nightstand or in my purse it is as harmless as if I had one of my high heel shoes sitting there. The key is knowing how to use my gun, and knowing how to be completely in control of my equipment, of my tool. That way, God forbid I ever have to use it, (I personally have almost had to once) I will know how and I will be 100% confident that it will work! Just like anything else in our lives, we need to be prepared to handle the situation as best as can. The bad guys may have the element of surprise on their side, but we have control over a couple of things:
- How prepared we are (PRACTICE)
- How well we know our equipment
- Improving other awareness skills
If you believe that using a firearm is your best option when faced with a threat, think again—it is actually your last resort- especially for women. Many times you will find yourself in situations that you can’t get to your gun or you will have to fight to get it. We also need to learn other skills that we must employ first: situational awareness, self-defense, and paying attention to your environment. You might even consider other forms of protection like mace or a Taser, all of which might prevent us from having to go to our last resort—our firearm.
Don’t let your gun be the only tool in your toolbox- be prepared in many ways!
Here is a picture of the Lipstick and Lead girls in our Hand to hand Self-Defense Class with Jim Balthazar at Secure Life Training in Dallas, TX.
My sister was really getting into our final where we had to fight the instructor for 1 minute and then escape through a door. I think she could have stayed all day and fought him, but all I could think about was fighting him off enough so I could get to my gun!
Remember, knowledge is POWER! The more we know, the more we want to know. We are only scared of what we don’t understand. We must prepare ourselves every day to make good decisions in a dangerous world. Whatever method of self-protection you choose—do it today! Prepare and get educated! Always be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. Be aware of your surroundings and pay attention. Learn the different options available to you and don’t be afraid to try something new. You never know – you might think it is empowering!



I had an interesting interview with a newspaper reporter the other day about our different views on Gun Control. She expressed to me that her whole life she had grown up “scared of guns.” I told her that was funny; I grew up scared of machetes! And that was because I grew up in Southern California in the early 80’s when the Night Stalker was busy terrorizing the Los Angeles area. Many nights I went to bed as a little girl hearing the nightly news report of the Night Stalker murdering another family in our area in an extremely gruesome way with a machete. I guess anything you hear on TV that is bad can be scary and bad to us?













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